Okay, so H has successfully ruined my day. He is 3 hours away, but can't let me alone. Just got tm that says, "If I want to be like you, there will be no changes to the D papers, see you in court". He is referring to our confrontation that we had Saturday night. I usually hold back from yelling or arguing with him, but he set me off Saturday. I knew I shouldn't have done it and that it could end up hurting me in the divorce. I am not responding. If he has something important to say to me, he can come see me. Can there be any more of a cowardly way than a tm?

I am so concerned about this D. I am asking for the house, my retirement, and my vehicle. I am offering him everything else, but it isn't a 50/50 split. It's more like 65/35. I cannot afford to stay in our house if he wants equity out of it. My dad built our house. In the original D papers, he wanted $25,000 equity out of the house plus all the other stuff that I was offering. He never asked me to sign those papers and our marriage date was incorrect so they were no good anyway. I am going to let this all ride until I get back from my vacation next week. No responding to tm or vm. For all he knows, I fell off the face of the earth. His mom seems to think that he sends these tm to me just to have contact with me and to get a reaction from me. Her response is don't respond. Does anyone else's WAS do this?

I think I need to find my own attorney and see what my options are. I was hoping that he would get the papers changed and we could have an amicable ending to this, but it doesn't look like it. He doesn't have a leg to stand on, but he sure can fire mean tm at me. Does anyone know how abandonment and desertion play into the D process? My H left 6 months ago and hasn't provided any financial support since October. I have been providing his health insurance since January and paying the mortgage and utilities since November. He has sold off a lot of the items that we owned. He also put money down on the house that OW bought in her name alone. Nothing falls in his favor, all in mine, but the one attorney that I talked to told me to accept the offer with the $25,000 and do it as soon as possible because I was losing more everyday and guys like these never change. I wasn't impressed with his advice at all. Any insight?

Last edited by hopeless11; 06/26/07 02:11 PM.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07
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