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I mistakenly forwarded it BACK to OM! Does that make me gay?? LOL),


\:o LOL!
Well, at least you can maintain your sense of humor. ;\)

I guess the only concern I had for you was that you would do just what you said, lose what's left of your love for her, if you continue to expose yourself to the nasty details of their A.
I still maintain this is partly the reason why my H showed no interest in OM details. Maybe it is a self-protection of sorts that can be healthy.
I'm not saying your plan isn't good. Just be careful that you don't get on a quest for "total exposure" at the detriment of your M survival. It may be too hard to come back from when the A runs it's course. I guess I am saying maintain the boundaries (such as, I will not live with you in the midst of an A,) in order to maintain your own self-respect, emotional health, and possible survival of the M long-term.
LFL