You ask good questions! No, I haven't set a timetable, but if I had to, I'd say 7/31 or 8/31.
Unfortunately, altho I tried to use the "forward" feature on her phone to forward one of the more salacious text messages to myself ("I'm in this bed, all alone" -- from her to OM... I mistakenly forwarded it BACK to OM! Does that make me gay?? LOL), I do not have enough proof yet.
A photo of them kissing, or a voice recording of a conversation, would do the trick. I'm not in a particular hurry, since this is giving me time to demonstrate strength, loving behavior and care for my family, and generally let "the new Choc." shine before her. This way, if she does leave the marriage, the last memories she will have will be positive ones, in case God has ANY future reconcilation plans in mind.
And of course, the converse of that is, during this time her continued behavior may cause me to lose what's left of my love for her, which is also needed if we are to divorce and I'm to be emotionally OK with that. So "patience" is the order of the day.
