Yes, it is VERY distressing that she is behaving like this in front of the kids. Even S14 and S10 notice how much "mommy is on her cellphone," and "why is Mommy always text-messaging?" While I have fully exposed to my two adult daughters (D20, D18), I have not told my sons anything other than "Mommy and Daddy are disagreeing about some things," etc., altho I have also sworn to myself that I will not lie to S14 if he asks me a direct question.
Right now, I'm about 90% sure he knows. He's a VERY bright kid.
One of three things can happen:
1) My wife can come to her senses, whether by an "epiphany" of sorts or by the pressures that I have brought to bear from multiple angles, and return to the marriage so we can begin the hard work of reconciliation and repair;
2) My wife can file for divorce;
3) Her behavior -- and clear proof thereof -- will reach a point where I will be forced to ask her to leave our home, and I will seek temporary custody of the boys if need be.
She has threatened #2, more than once. She is VERY close to #3. I'm still praying for #1, by whatever means necessary.
