got it. Sometimes we LBSers spend so much time wanting them to come back and it is THE goal...but if and when the WAS returns, for many of us there seems to be confusion or our own MLC of sorts. We ask, first, who are THESE people we married who would do such things? Are they changed from who they were, or were they always this way and were we blind/in denial? What do WE want from now on and can this person be the one to give it to me, and to be loved and trusted by me...can we let go of the past at all, and if so, when?
In some ways, their return may not be the "easy" part but it is the simple part. Staying M after a betrayal of whatever sort, hard blows to the heart, THAT ain't simple or easy. It's very complex, as I am learning. Now is time for "Real Work at Marriage - Part II"
good luck. As I don't know the letter's contents I cannot comment. But maybe you could see any ambiguities in your M's favor?? rather than the negative spin, unless there is clarity. Ahhhh, clarity....what's that? j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
