Well my W is in the same sitch as you, even same ages. Her family is doing the same thing. I spoke with them and told them to please back off, we have to handle this ourselves. Of course kind and lovingly. I am glad you are posting here, it is great to see opposite viewpoint. I think you need to remember one thing. My W hinted at things adn even came right out and said things, but it didn't hit me until she told me ILYBNILWY. Of course I pursued, etc. but fortunately not for too long. It will sink in with H, remember you need time and space, but he more than likely wants a quick change back to the way things were. He has to come to some realizations, but I think recommending DB could not hurt, or maybe even buying him a copy. Neither of you can control each others behavior. It is great to see a WAS on here, it shows us that some actually care and gives the different perspective as well. The feelings can and will come back if you make some effort. I hope your H pulls his head out of his a$$, many of us here I think would be fortunate to have a WAW who is willing to try like you. Back to the family thing maybe you could try something like this, H I need the time and space to sort things out on my own and the family is driving me further away, could you please tell them that we need to sort this out on our own. I think being honest with him is a great thing. By taking an honest look at what you have done to cause this sitch and reading up, you will come to the realization that there are things you can do to get the "love" back and you can lead H down this path.
