D Busted...Now Back Here

[mkultra]

That sounds like a good start. It seems like there is a bunch of unspoken language going on. I can almost see me doing some of the stuff your W did. I wanted to file just to get my H to do something different with his life or move out. I hate where my H works so instead of appreciating his hard work I resent every hour he is late. He also works with mostly women. You need to understand her unspoken language with symathy in order to rebuild trust. Going away for anything when I had a 3 year old would have seemed really selfish in my house. I know boys will be boys, but there are Terrible Twos and Miserable Threes. I am not saying any of this is your fault, but she also sounds a bit hormonal. Is she currently on fertility drugs or some other meds? If you have done nothing to break her trust why is she so paranoid? Do you do things to reassure her? I know there is a chapter on rebuilding trust after ab infidelity with tools you can use even if you have been faithful. Limiting business trips away is one of those things.