Got a call from H today but it was about the divorce settlement.
As you recall, the last letter that I received from H's lawyer gave me an ultimatum .. either accept H's "generous" settlement offer or be prepared to go to court.
I declined the generous offer.
When I saw H's name on caller ID today, I thought for a silly moment that it might be about our wedding anniversary next Sunday. But no. H was gruff from the moment I said hello. His demeanor was loud, aggressive and defensive. He told me he was going to make one last settlement offer and that was it.
He tried to intimidate me during the call. He tried to draw me into an argument. I guess I finally learned how to detach, because I didn't take the bait. I was totally calm and I think it shocked H that I couldn't be baited at all (a 180 for me).
H finally said that if I didn't accept his offer, we would go to court. I said, "That's okay, H. We can both stand before the judge .. he'll look at my conduct for the past two years and he'll look at yours and then he will make a decision. Sounds fair to me".
We talked 45 minutes but not once did his tone of voice soften toward me. Even when I mentioned the kids, he remained defensive. He did say that he thought about the kids every day. That was the only kind thing he said during the entire call.
He also mentioned the OW's truck (which he bought for her last year). He said that it was parked in a lot with a "For Sale" sign on it. I don't know what that means .. it might mean nothing.
H said he wants this divorce over with. Actually, so do I. Nothing could be salvaged from this wreck. If H and I ever had a snowball's chance, it would have to be after this divorce is done and the dust settles.
His settlement offer today was really not bad. I am still stubborn about the boat, though. I'm not budging there. I told him to have his lawyer submit his offer to my lawyer and we will consider it.
