do you have the DB books and have you read them? Do you understand about backing off and not obsessing, snooping, and detaching? Much much easier said than done BUT mandatory for any healing.
No matter what the future holds, you need to heal. If you need to visualize a STOP sign when the "stinking thinking" gets to you, then do it. Give your heart some space and relief for a bit. The constant worry and obsessing is NOT helping you. Do you see that? So if it is Not helping you or your sitch, try something different. Read the divorce busting books and give some of their suggestions a try. It has helped me and my M a lot and no matter what ultimately happens in my M, I know for certaint hat without the DB approach, I'd already be done and divorced, and in much more pain. I honestly do feel pretty good about my life now but would never have thought this possible a year or so ago. Good luck, j
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
