Shocked H in NJ looking for DB help

[Willing NJ H]

I am trying last resort as well, the problem I don't get is that I fixed all of my issues when she finally talked to me (over a month before the bomb was dropped.) I got overbearing trying to fix our communication problems. I'm very open and willing to talk and to comprommise on most anything. I just don't understand what she's thinking, and i've learned that it doesn't matter because I can't change it. It drives me crazy that she can have her cake and eat it too, but that's not enough to keep our family together? The only thing we can't do is be unfaithful? I'm easy going enough that nothing else bothers me and she's just as trusting. I understand how I made her feel when I was ranting, but she's told me that she knows it's gone now and asked me how I "just changed over night like I knew exactly what she meant."

Sorry for the rant, I'm always worse at night. I'm so frustrated. Thanks for the help FAITHFUL'aGA. Good luck with your H. I could almost care less what she does (though I love her and want it to work out), but our finances are tied up (together and spent on our home) and we have a two year old? Who knows how they do this? Fixing the M seems much better than starting over to me. Thanks again.