Like you say Choc, whether they have gone "all the way" or not, it is still an affair, no other word for it and at least you are being upfront and honest with yourself that that's exactly what it is. We can fool ourselves but what's the point?

Amazing how immature our spouses can act at times isn't it?

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)