We all seem to be at the same point with our sitchs. I am sorry that you too are going through this too. I guess that I can say I am the lucky one because I don't have children to worry about, but can anyone in these sitchs really say they are lucky? I am putting my faith in God and cutting off all contact with H. We are good women and we deserve better. There are other men out there that would treat us the way that we deserve. We all deserve to be loved and wanted. We will go on and one day our H's are going to realize that they lost the best thing that ever happened to them. Hang your heads high. We are going to come out on top.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Hopeless, All we can do right now is turn it over to God. I pray for him to take the situation from me and take away the bitterness. We have to believe there is something or someone better out there for us. Hang in there ladies.
Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I have been feeling extremely bitter also all of the sudden. I need to step back from my sitch and focus on myself and quite putting so much focus on OW. I am praying for the same thing as you. Maybe that someone is still our H's but it definately isn't the H's that we have been dealing with for the last 8 months. Our H's have chosen not to listen to God, maybe at some point they will start. Then there will be hope for our M, otherwise there isn't. Take care.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Gracey, My baby is the same age and I see her looking at him so adoringly in pictures. He is sorta, somewhat into her. (he would say she's everything, but doesn't act it)
I'm on the same timeline (became aware of at least EA around the same time you did) and decided just to sit for a while and see what happens. But I too wonder about a man who basically abandoned me.
We are polite at least.
Also: I've read that men tend to become more interested in the babies around the 18 month mark.
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M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
Well, once again my H just continues to not surprise me. Yesteday, he called and said that he was going to be a good father and start seeing kids more. I was happy to hear this, but always doubtful. Today, he calls me and tells me that yes in fact he and OW are moving in together. I immediatly got upset, not screaming upset but I told him that it was a mistake and that he isn't even thinking about kids. I told him he does want he wants, but do not involve kids or but them in a home of doubt. I continued to tell him that I was fighting full custody and that I want the kids with me more. I said that I don't want them a part of his mess and that he can see them every other weekedend with vistitation within the two weeks. I told him that I was tired of him and OW and that I don't want to hear about their lives. I also said that they were both selfish, because not once were the kids thought of and now he is going to move in with a woman that has doubts about being a step-mom. I am so tired of this. When will it end?????????????????????????
I'm sorry Gracey. Our H's have a lot of nerve living with these OW when they are still married to us. I don't know how they look at themselves in the mirror. I am really sorry to hear that your H is not concerned about your babies. He is only thinking about himself. It is very sad to see that your innocent babies are the ones that are going to be hurt the most by this. Keep your head high and take care. You are a strong woman and you will make it. Keep being a great mom to your babies.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Sorry to hear about your H's attitude. I can sort of relate. My first wife left me with a 3mo and 3 yr old D. Now this is a mother leaving her babies behind. But I found out later she was on drugs (cocaine). I too think your husband is not thinking clearly because too is on a drug (the OW). All you can do is be there for your kids. They are the only victims in a divorce. Husbands and wives can and will move on but the kids are dependant on us.
My X never did come back. My D's are now 22&25 they have never met there "birth mom". As they put it. Hopefully your husband will get over the "high" he is on and come back. You don't know if this will happen. But you do know that your kids need you. Be there for them and don't worry if your husband is or not.
Take care Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I will continue to focus on my kids. I have giving up on him months ago, I only thought he would see the light when it came to the kids. Wishful thinking. I know that I am an excellent mom and I provide the best stability for them. He is the one that is missing out and that is the price he will have to pay someday. Thank you for all your support.
Got back from a father son day. We were at home talking. my W said we were crazy/silly. I said it was a father/son thing. my son said YA. My W asked what about a mother/son thing? he said that's ok but it's diferant.
Ouch
Husband.
P.s W took son out "shopping" today.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I am so amazed how people can just throw their families away, for someone they barely know. Unfortunately for my H, he will be missing out on a lot of the twins lives. Right now, he doesn't care, but someday, I know it will hit him. It's a ticking bomb, waiting to explode. I am so happy that you had a great day with your son. Kids are great, arent' they?
