T2HO:

Oh, honey, your thread got so thoroughly hijacked... Well, that's what happens when you post a question, and then don't show up for a few days... we go right on gabbing without you. \:\)

Okay, in all seriousness... if I were you... I'd start reading up on workaholics. Like I said, your H reminds me a lot of my xH. If he is working 12 to 15 hour days, consistently... there is something, below the surface, driving that behavior. I've worked long days like that, and I can tell you, I needed way more than a paycheck to motivate me to do so... to work those kind of hours, more than once or twice a day a month?!

I also think he could be using sex to relieve stress, and it is an addictive loop type of behavior. It sounds to me as if he is almost using sex as a 'pacifier' type action... and believe me, I spent quite a bit of time discussing this with my shrink (as my xH did the exact same thing).

Look into understanding the 'workaholic.' They don't call it 'workaholic' for nothing.

Corri