STOP taking everything she says as the end. Give her some damn space, let her work things out. If she says she's done, say, "I'm sorry to hear that." Or, "I'd rather our marriage work but if you'll be happier divorced than giving our family one more chance, then all I ever wanted was for you to be happy." Let her chew on that, let her do all the D work, you just protect yourself and your kids, and let things work themselves out.
All of our W's have said they're done. Many of our W's have filed. You either DB and stand for your marriage, or you don't. Only you know when you've done all you can. Good Luck!
I think I need to write this on a cue card so that I can use it if the time comes.
For me? I've already been through it. I've said those very things, I'm not helping her get the D one bit. I'm wide open to reconciliation if she wants it. I'm living, not just existing. I'm standing. I won't be done til the judge has me dragged out of the courtroom unconscious!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
