I need some understanding from the men out there.

[fightingirish]

ok sooooo As far as money issues go.. Im not a money spender... I don't spend money, only if its clothes or something for the kids. I don't buy myself anything. I've never been like that. Even before kids came into play, but I also worked then also at a regular job.Sometimes I do think he puts the pressure on himself, knowone else. He spends all our money on the business, which I understand he has to put back for us to go forward, I'm not materialistic, I don't need new clothes, or get my nails done, or any of that. He spends tons more money than I, but it is on the business, but he has to have the best of the best, that is one of his problems.

And Yes I do understand he is physically tired (he's a spray foam contractor) But sometimes having all the money in the world does nothing if you don't have time to spend with your family.

As far as the sex thing goes, yes I NEED that closeness, no toys or anything just him and I, and he doesn't give that to me. and yes sometimes I feel like its mechanical and I get nothing out of it because of this. I tell him but it just doesn't register.

I could not divorce him, unless he did something that couldn't be taken back, but we do have things to work on to make our relationship stronger, because Im pretty much feeling alone right now.

There is really knowone to talk to about this, except you guys and girls.

If you are to know anything about me, know that I am Loyal to the death, in friendships and my marriage. I will fight for you and defend you and be there for you till the end. I wouldn't never hurt you unless I was hurt first, and not intentionally. I don't look at other men or think about other men, just my two sweet little boys and my ONE big Boy. That's why I think I get hurt because I expect other people to be like that and they just aren't my h included.