Even though I stopped replying to her email as UA suggested. She has emailed me back to let me know we are finished. So there ya go.
Dude, have you been paying attention at all??? I mean even a little bit?
1) My W filed for divorce day 1 - she could have been done on our first trip to court, she delayed things. 2) She got a PROTECTIVE ORDER to make sure I couldn't communicate with her 3) She told our Pastor no less than 3 times that we are over, done, no chance of getting back together, etc. 4) She has told me to my face that all she wants is to be done, sign and get closure, 100% done. 5) I have spoken to her 2 times in 3 months.
A) In those 2 times (5 weeks more or less), she has softened, thought things through, shared with me things she's never shared before, and last time said she'd think about giving us another chance. B) Is she taking her sweet time, yes. Do I want it to be faster, yes. Can I make it faster, NO! C) Are we D'd? NO! And we could have been, as I mentioned.
STOP taking everything she says as the end. Give her some damn space, let her work things out. If she says she's done, say, "I'm sorry to hear that." Or, "I'd rather our marriage work but if you'll be happier divorced than giving our family one more chance, then all I ever wanted was for you to be happy." Let her chew on that, let her do all the D work, you just protect yourself and your kids, and let things work themselves out.
All of our W's have said they're done. Many of our W's have filed. You either DB and stand for your marriage, or you don't. Only you know when you've done all you can. Good Luck!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
