My goodness! First of all--you ARE a man, you just need to start acting like one. You are letting your wife control FAR too much of what you think, how you act, what you don't think, what you don't do....I can feel from your post that all you want to do is make her happy. That is really sweet. It's too bad your wife doesn't seem to see that. From where I sit, I don't see where she has much respect for you and she treats you accordingly. You need to learn to respect yourself and live for you-her respect will either come or it won't. But at least you can look in the mirror and see the man you ARE, the man you want to be. I think you need to take the focus off of the R and the sex life for now and rediscover who you are and what you like. You are half of the marriage my friend, stop letting her squash you.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
