Quoting lostlove: I have been unhappy for more than 8 years with this r...it has not changed and will not change
I have come to the same conclusion...which eplains why I haven't been here in a while!
Over the Xmas holidays, my wife and I spent sooooo much time together, but it opened my eyes in a way, I realized that i was happy, she was not...and i realized that i was happy because of me...not because of her. She does not make me happy, I make me happy...In fact, she adds an element of stress and chaos that i simply do not want nor need in my life at the moment!
As for exepting that things simply remain the way way they are at the moment (i.e. H staying with you or not, filing for divorce or not etc.), I do not necesarily think that is a good thing, but remember: Only YOU can judge what's best for you. You know your situation better than anyone...so you must make the decisions. You are ultimitaly responsible for your life . I KNOW that even if my wife told me tomorow that she wanted to come back to me...I would (at this point) say NO...I have made changes in me that I love, that make me feel good...she does not make me feel good and I would not be able to live with her the way she is at the moment (or the way she has been since the birth of our daughter)!
I know I have fought the good fight. Life is a journey...and it is the journey that is important, NOT the destination!
Until next time...if there is one...keep being YOU!
Love Steph
P.S. Thanks for ALL the help and support along the way!
. I KNOW that even if my wife told me tomorow that she wanted to come back to me...I would (at this point) say NO...I have made changes in me that I love, that make me feel good...she does not make me feel good and I would not be able to live with her the way she is at the moment (or the way she has been since the birth of our daughter)!