He's still with her, and I'm moving on...

[BeingMe]

Sometimes, like in my case, it's when you become pro-active (such as actively starting or moving the process of D along) is when they decide they don't want to lose you. At any rate, it's nice to be able to take control of one's own life. At the moment, he probably thinks he has plenty of time to make up his mind (although, one would think he did on the day he married you), while having fun with OW, and having you hang on by a thread.

Don't let the IL's (or anyone else, for that matter) make your choices for you. YOU must decide what is best for you. If you haven't been married for very long, then I question what kind of husband your H is going to be like in the future, if he is already cheating. It won't be fun if you end up having children, then he decides to go off with some OW in the future. It gets really complicated then. On the other hand, I am very pro-marriage, and would rarely advise anyone to go down the D path. Just something to consider.

You don't mention your own family, and how they are feeling about all of this?

Hope you have a nice holiday, and that the distance, and space will give you time to reflect on what course of action you should take, that is in your own best interest.