Went to T last night by myself. Told him the same thing I had told the last two Ts. He wants to try to get her to back to couples counseling. I said not right now. She wants nothing to do with therapy right now. She wants out. He said that I know my situation better than he does and if I don't think it's time, then don't do it. But as soon as she seems to soften a bit, go for it. I am hesitant to do that. I will continue to just go by myself and let her say what she wants to do and validate.
Does that sound like the correct plan?
When she's softening, say, "I'm going to a great therapist on wednesdays. If you'd be interested in going, here is his info. You don't have to go with me, but if you feel like trying him out, I'll pay for it." OR something like that (she may not like the you paying for it part, you know her and how she'd react.)
No pressure, no hurry, no implication that SHE needs to go, just "If she wants to check it out."
Good Luck!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
