Please allow me to barge in here. I have been 'quietly' following your thread. Love this bit from Ange,
Quote: It was like relating to him as a friend with no expectations for him to be my H.
This is good stuff. Stealing your advice. I will carry on performing the 'wifely' duties while not expecting anything from H. If he does something, that is a bonus/surprise. Say something to show that you appreciate.
LL, I share you concern. My H too is in MLC and I don't know if/how long I can survive his drama. He also 'closed off' around the time the affair started. No matter what I did, he remained critical and emotionally/physically distant (a true alien). He treats his friends better than me. Wish he can speak to me in the same tone of voice. No!!! Grumpmaster general doesn't do that.
Hang in there .... i know it's a emotional rollercoaster. It is hell. But I have become stronger during this time. Detaching really takes practice.
Been back with my H for a month. Every single day is a saga. And me too... I see little 'stupid' things he does and "I AM SO HAPPY". My friends can't share that...they thought I've gone nuts.
Keep venting here, not to your H. I have done that and it backfires, big time.
