I'm glad to see you're beginning to realize that your logic has no effect on the W. I did the same things too and then finally realized my H was going through a "crazy" time in his life and I might as well go with it, and even agree and have fun with the whole thing... "You know people do get tired of being with one person after awhile so why should people even get married? It might be better if the kids never do get married so they have to go through all this... young couples nowadays just live together and gosh, seeing all this divorce you can't blame them. Why go through all the legal stuff if you don't have to?"
Try saying stuff like that to her and agreeing with her that divorce is good and not getting married is even better ("Heck, everyone cheats. No guy really wants to be stuck with one woman for more than three years... why get married at all?"), and see what she says about that!!! Hee hee!!!
And, then, at the same time tell her she seems a bit tense and offer to give her a back rub. Just tell her that her shoulders seem a bit tight and get real close while you're doing this, whisper "relax, now... doesn't that feel better..." and "have you been working out? You look really good..." deep sexy voice, and breathe in her ear....
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
