Quote: Did he say nothing when you mentioned this about OW?
well let's see...somewhere in there was thrown in the fact that he had taken her to lunch...if he had been showing me he "loved" me why would he not have called me and said hey hon I've got an hour bring son down and we'll get lunch...
h " oh this again"
h still has feelings for ow...is not reflecting, is not doing the supposed "soul searching" he intended...h is choosing to just put his needs aside for his family...
we all know where this will lead don't we.
I would find it hard to believe h would read any books at this point...that opportunity was missed...if anything I would have to read it (and I did look for it at the book store but they didn't have any so my search is on...maybe while I'm out tonight) and then mention or read things to him..unlikely that he would read it himself...if I had been the one to leave...I would have been let go and that would be that...
I have talked about some of the "love launguages" with him...let him know that when I go out I want for him to call me and/or even tell me that he want's or would like for me to stay home with him... I know that when he goes out he doesn't want to be called and doesn't want to be "hassled" by me saying I'd like for him to stay home with me. h does not tell me these things I have learned them by paying attention to him...h never bothered to pay attention to me and my damn cheesless tunnels.
I suppose I could try to get him to read or at least listen to some of the books with me. I think that after last nights conversation he knows that we have to do something or we will be a waw and a wah simply living together for the kids. oh joy!
I don't think either one of us wants that to happen and since I am the one more inclined to seek help, read books, think, and all that mumbo I will have to be the one to do so.
