Why is the ow so controlling?

[25yearsmlc]

dear all,

I gave the stats b/c they addressed a question a person mentioned, or so I recall. BTW, if you get a chance--faithisbelieving posted a lengthy researched piece on types of OPs and cheaters,etc. Reminded me of Madame BOvary and other literature pieces in history, wherein infidelity and "MLCs" were explored. Just not thought of that way until now.

But really as you all know, the stats are nice background info for those first entering this place. Sometimes reality checks help but so does hope. In the end, we are all just trying to ease our pain and increase our understanding of why our lives have just been upturned so much.

As for the hospital analogy--I could have done better. It's just that many "happy" or successful marriages have struggled through God knows what, and we never know they did. They weren't on our "bb"s, or radar, if you kwim. We cannot surmise much solely by being here.

We all have to think for ourselves and make the best choices we can on limited, shifting information. So far I've stayed in my M and will be joining my h up in Alaska not b/c HE deserves it. But b/c I think we have a chance, and our d9 does deserve it. And if I'm wrong, then she'll have had that much more time with both her parents in the house, and that ain't so bad. Sometimes despite very very mixed feelings, all I can do at the end of the day, is what I THINK/HOPE is best for my children. "Statistics, smastisticks".
j