I need some understanding from the men out there.

[Crazy Eddie]

My h works 12 to 15 hour days. He is a really hard worker and I know he does it for us and Im not faulting him for that. But it can be hard on me when I have two kids to take care, the house and also I do work for his business.. Im worn out.

12 to 15 hour days, all the time? Wow, no wonder he's cranky all the time. He's worn out too.

Is he making a lot of money? Are y'all saving a big chunk of it, or spending nearly all of it? He may think he need to do all this work to keep you happy or keep the family afloat, especially if you're spending almost all he makes now. Or he may not be good at managing money. He may even be poor at managing his time, and only getting about 5 hours (or even less) of actual work accomplished per day, and doing his best to hide that fact.

But I'd say that things are unlikely to get better until his work situation is improved... there's no way he can be fully present with you or meet any of your needs with so little free time available.

I am with the kids 24/7, I never get a break because I don't have anyone to watch them, and yes I get burnt out. Just once a month even I would like time by myself just to recharge.

You do have someone to watch them... their father. Leave the kids with him and don't take no for an answer. I actually wish my own wife would do that a lot more often. He may actually be more comfortable watching them by himself than trying to do anything helpful in your presence.

We actually are going away for the first time in 5 years ALONE... going up to saratoga for a RUSH concert...So we will see how it goes.

Thanks again for all of your insite..

Enjoy yourselves, and don't wait 5 years to go somewhere by yourselves again.