I need some understanding from the men out there.

[fearless]

fearless:

If you take sex out of the relationship, why would a man need a woman? What about women would draw us to them?

1) WHY must you always go to the extreme? I have NEVER said to remove sex completely from arelationship. But IF a man did not need sex, he may want female companionship of the sort his mother, sister, best friend, etc. cannot and should not give. He might be drawn to her intelligence, beauty, caring nature,charisma, etc. He might like how he feels around her. Just a few ideas. Again FOR ME I would NEVER exclude sex, I just believe their are additional things a man probably loves about his woman.

2) So let me turn this type of all or nothing question back on you. If a man ONLY needed sex from a woman, then why marry? Why not use prostitutes where he could get constant attention and varying women and would NEVER have to worry that someone else's needs or feelings might need to come before his own? Or just strong together one night stands, where again you have variety and interest and can just run out the door afterwards? WHY in the world DO men get married if their attitude is only about sex and getting their needs met on their own schedule?

3) And to respond to another post to me, I NEVER reject my man. I may not be up to sex but my partner ALWAYS understands how I feel about him. It is not a rejection of him and it is NEVER a risk for him to try again the next day. I KNOW this because MY relationships have had good communication. And in fact my I have said I was too tired, stressed or whatever, my partners have been able to laugh and/ or be understanding about MY state of mind - FWIW I don't particularly ENJOY being so exhausted that sex sounds like a chore. I wish I was always so well rested and relaxed without a care in the world that I could ALWAYS feel up to it but unfortunately I do live in the real world which includes illness, work and all the common stresses of every day life. Which is why I am understanding when my partner is not always able to do the things I appreciate most at the moment I need them. I understand that he might be tired or stressed himself and either actively listening to me, to do additional chores, to buy a gift or whatever may be too much extra on his plate and I CUT HIM SOME SLACK!

4) Unless BOTH partners develop some ability for empathy, I would think that relationships will always be difficult for those people.

My thoughts for the day...