Just a quick note about the value of DB in all parts of life:
Yesterday, I was at my parents' house discussing the issue of buying H out of my house. They are going to help me with it, but now that the house is worth about $60,000 more than I thought, I will need more from them.
So, we get into the discussion, and my dad says, it's not a problem, but it is more than we expected. We can do it, but now there's really no leeway, we'll have nothing to fall back on. He said this in various ways (no extra $ if something happens) about 5 times, no exaggeration.
Consequently, I start getting very anxious. During this time, my mum also answers questions for me twice, and I ask her not to. (big step for me b/c I did it w/o yelling, lol!)
Finally, I say to my dad, "I'm not sure why you keep saying that."
Dad: Because there won't be any safety net.
Me: I feel like you're saying you don't want to give me the money.
Dad: No, it's just that it will be tight for us.
Me: I hear you, but it's making me very anxious. Why do you keep saying that?
Dad: I guess I'm anxious too!
Me: OK, I'll go home and do a mortgage calculation and see how much I need.
I did that, and it was less than I thought (about $30,000 less), so I emailed them today and we'll talk later.
During the conversation, I was getting really nervous, but I stayed calm, externally. I also spoke calmly to both my parents. My father is a very stressed out Type-A person, and it's easy for me to fall into that behaviour when I'm with him. I was really pleased that I was able not to do that. Also, instead of ASSuming that he was giving me some kind of negative message (we don't want to give you this $), I found out that he was just projecting his own anxiety. IT HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH ME!!
All in all, a good experience.
I'm still kind of stressed about the house though. But I'll deal with it.
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