How do I know if this will work? HElp!

[saffie]

You are in the very early stages of recovery. Dont expect too much too soon. My H's affair ended a year ago and although he was v. quiet about it I am sure he carried around feelings for OW for a long time. They might not have been realistic feelings, just daydreams that kept him going through our ups and downs, but its hard to compete with a fictional OW. I expect she can be even more 'ideal' than the real thing. It was only this weekend that he admitted that what he had felt was 'lust' not love and that thinking about things now he realised that OW was not very nice and quite calculating and manipulative. BOY did I NEED to hear that. It came out unsolicited and has really helped me move on a bit further. BUT it has taken a year to get there. As others have said on other posts - baby steps.

Best wishes

Saffie