How do I know if this will work? HElp!

[RedHeadWife]

Remember, it has only been A WEEK. You need to be patient if you want to work your M out. Unfortunately, the one who cheated doesn't always jump up and make all sorts of apologies and try to make everything great & wonderful again.

In my sitch, H dropped the D bomb and had had previous A's that I had forgiven and then ended up telling me about another EA that he was having during the D sitch. Now that everything is 'great & wonderful' for us again, he is acting like nothing ever happened. Unfortunately, we (you and I) are left to deal w/ a lot of cr*p.

If you truly want to stay in your M, forgiveness is a daily process. Each day, you may need to 'remind' yourself that you want to forgive your H for what has happened. You are going to go through a grief-like process, anger, resentment, etc.

While you are doing all of this, you are going to have to continue to DB and be the happy W and loving W, etc. It sucks at times and is not easy, but one person has to begin to make the effort to get things back on track and it may be awhile before he starts to put any effort into things.

I know it doesn't sound 'fair,' but if you really want to save your M, you are going to have to put in the work and see what happens.