"I merely come to tell people to be the best they can be (which isn't always easy) and that will do more to allow them to have a successful life than any amount of knowledge of MLC, statistics, or gyrations about God hating divorce. God wants you to take care of yourself and be the best you can be no matter what."
I don't know about the religious bits, but I agree whole-heartedly with the message.
The best thing anyone here can do for themselves, their family, their M, is to let go of the focus on the WAS. The WAS is beyond the control of the LBS. The WAS is beyond the knowing of the LBS. In many many ways, things with WASs are not what they seem, nor what people want them to be, nor even what the WAS thinks they are. Many of the secrets of the WASs are beyond the ken to all those involved. The good thing is, this doesn't matter.
Whether the LBS wants to save the M or not, the best path to take is to find a great life for themselves full of joy and happiness independent of the WAS.
