Sounds like you are making an effort, and he might be willing to make an effort. There is a program that helped me and my husband. It was a complete turning point for us. The program is called Retrouvaille, meaning rediscovery in French. It started in Canada, but now has marital retreat weekends in most American cities and many European countries. They have a website, http://www.retrouvaille.org. with information on where and when the weekends are. For the program to work, both partners have to be willing to try. (Although I think my H was resistant at first, but he did come around.) Some people don't want to try Retrouvaille because it is affiliated with the Catholic Church. If that is not your religion, and it is not mine or my H's, you will have some time to let your mind wander while the priest speaks. The program is open to all denominations.
