Hi LL.

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H does not initiate outings (going to the movies tonight again my idea
Didn't he initiate the ski trip?

LL, I want to know how come you went from:
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H is here
H is attentive and affectionate to the kids
H does little things around the house
H stays longer in the am even if he's upstairs sleeping at least he's not running out the door as soon as his eyes open, and is comming home early almost every day (well at least by dinner time)
H is accepting my invitations to do things (still wish he'd be the one to initiate an outing)
H is on occasion letting me into that head simply by commenting on different things ( was talking about friend and friends wife)
to...
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h found his love...to bad she was already married so he married me...tried to leave me but by then it was to hard...too much time and money invested...children involved so suck it up...it's the better end of the sword..you wont get as much flack from your family on this side of the blade...all you have to do is give up the true love that you found.
I'm asking this question in all seriousness. Was there some "event" that triggered this response? You see, I tend to do the same thing. I also think that I overanalyze what my W "might" be thinking. I assume the worst, then I behave based on my assumptions. The result: I project negativity into our interactions. I've done it countless times throughout our M and is something I'm trying very hard to fix. Is it possible you're doing the same?

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now it seems we are once again falling back into the same old same old...boring is one thing..I don't mind comfort but stale and lacking is another.
Why? How was LL different the day her H came back than today? What freakishly weird thing can you do as a 180 to get your H to notice?

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perhaps h and ow are right we just had a young r and aren't meant to be together but unfortunatley are bound together by our children.
Interesting...exactly what my W says. Frankly, romantic love lasts about two years...whether you have it in highschool or whether you have it in your 30s. Tell me the difference? I would almost argue that although being younger suggests immaturity, yet there's not all that other BS that goes along with having an R when you're older. So, which is better: immaturity or baggage?

Just a few thoughts, LL. I hope you're feeling better when you get up in the morning. It's late for me right now and very early for you...

jethro