How do I know if this will work? HElp!

[jtodd]

After the end of my H's EA last weekend(I know, it's naive to say it's over but it was w/ my BF and both she and her H assure me it's over-looong story but let's assume it is over, at least for now.
I am trying my 180(going out w/ friends; spending time watching tv w/ him instead of on the computer; working out instead of complaining about gaining weight) & my cheerleading (positive attitude). As expected, he is being a smart@$$, short answers to my Q's, and moping around (mourning the 'loss' of the OW) but we have had a few laughs and he says he's not leaving (baby on the way in 7 mos) to let me have this baby on my own & he hopes to goodness we'll work it out by then.
Knowing that he has no clue on what to fix, much less how to get started, he has said he's scared this will not work out. He wants to feel connected and in love w/ me again, which is what i want too. I am trying not to get frustrated, b/c it's only been a week or so, but he's not one to have an open mind & he's quite stubborn.

So, do I just sit back and trust my strategies are working?? How in the world do you make someone fall back in love with you when the 1st time was so much easier (we know all the basic details about each other's lives now, it's hard to even know what to talk about!!) And, how do I know when I should be "getting a life" vs. spending time w/ him (b/c that was part of our problem)?

I'm trying to be patient but yet realistic. I've read Divorce Remedy 2x and it is awesome. I'm just worried my time will run out before his stubborn self gives up, or he doesn't realize that our problems are being fixed and he's just blind. Help!!