Even in my most HD moment the only way I can get past a man being a real jerk and feel sexual is if I "one up" him - if I act as the sexual boss and order him around sexually and change the vibe then I can sometimes get past his jerkiness.
Good point, Karen. It's very hard to let a jerk "top" you because you will feel like a complete "loser". In that sich, you can only be sexual if you act "top". However, I really don't think that is Cemar's problem. I think his problem is that he wants his wife to be quite "top" and "object-oriented" but she has no desire to go there. I think his wife is probably more exasperated than hurt by his behavior.
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