Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry you feel attacked. I am not at all trying to excuse or defend H's behavior or OW's behavior. I'm not sure what suggested that I was. Indeed, I suggested H's guilt might explain his behavior. My point is only that it does nothing to help YOU to put your energy there. There is no telling what is going on between them and in the end it doesn't really matter.
As for your thoughts about what is going on with H and OW, I have no idea if what you think is going on or not. It may very well be. Like I said, who knows? You deserve better than to let their antics impinge on your life in terms of worrying about what is going on in their R. It just isn't worth it and doesn't get anywhere.
I was also writing in a general way on this thread because I thought it was a general topic. It is hard to see so much wasted energy dumped into worrying about the Rs between WAHs and OWs.
You are right, I am not trying to attack you. My interest is encouraging people to stop putting energy into people who are hurting the LBSs, rather than putting it into them. In particular, you deserve your attention a lot more than they do!
As much as I hate to bump this thread, I just want to say thank you OT. I am still pretty sensitive sometimes, so thanks for clarifying.
~ Nicola
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