How we became separated

[mkultra]

Hello, I am still a newbie but I love venting. I wanted to share a little of my story. My H and I have been dealing with his depression and anger ever since my S2 was born. He does not see this as a coincidence but our therapist and I do. He also had to take a job in my family business since our family was growing and he kept getting laid off in his field. Working for my family has also been a difficult endeavor as my family is made up of ambitious workaholics and my husband and I liked staying home with the kids rather than making a lot of money. It was great when my D5 was born because we lived off of savings for three months instead of working. I think my H has issues with his manhood, his ability to provide, and fatherhood, etc. He became more insecure and he started cussing at me so I withheld sex more often until our marriage became sex starved. I hated the foul language as it seemed like verbal abuse but he thought that was ridiculous. This was a cycle. depression, anger, sexless, etc. He began to lose a lot of weight and this turned me off even more so I asked his family to intervene. He was so insulted. I asked him to leave to be with his parents until he sorted his health issues and he took this as getting kicked out. I guess it was. Then he says he will move out since he stopped loving me so why should we be married. He continues to believe this even though he is more depressed and more miserable. He still does not sleep or eat and he is still an angry father. And hopefully, he is still having a sexless life but that remains to be unseen!

Going back to the way beginning, we were pretty much like Donna and Eric from that 70's Show. We were best friends who became very close in high school and then became soul mates. He was thin, funny, cute and a little dorky. I was cool and tomboyish but kind of cute in an athletic way. Everyone thought we belonged together, but now he has completely rejected me with really cold anger. I hope I can remain positive but throwing in the towel and starting over with someone else sounds tempting. I sometimes think how much easier it would be to find a man who does not have all these issues.