Quickly a thought. Have you thought of saying things to your H about your happiness last night? Maybe do/say something special to him or otherwise to let him know that it was exactly what you wanted in your R. Be specific of what you liked about (perhaps not initmacy every night, but hugs more often when he comes home or before going to bed). Let him know that these little acts go a long way (see how much you feel better today compared to the past few?) Give him a few more times of those specific positive reinforcement after he does the right things and see if he "gets it".
Chuck 