Actually there is no "official" ow now. There WAS one until Sept 2006 (H was open and honest about her then). Now it's just a "ow wannabee" (I believe my H is pursuing the FF I wrote about last fall-winter) and H signed up for an online dating service. D16 has not mentioned being with anyone else while she is with her dad. I am trying hard not to pry when she returns from an outing with him!