FK,

Well, my sitch was similar for a while and then he moved out. It is better for me this way. I feel I stood up for myself.

You need to set some boundaries. Decide what is most important to you (for me, I wanted respect) and start thinking about how to get it.

M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D