That is exactly what I am doing. I am going on vacation this week to see a friend, so hopefully, I will get away from this all for a few days. I am going to wait until after I get back to call his attorney and see what the status of the papers are. I am not answering any phone calls or tm, and if he continues to hold up this D, I will file myself.
He does have some nerve, and then to act like I was in the wrong. I had every right to be there. His niece was in first grade when I started to date my H, and as of today, I am still her aunt and still his wife. I had more right to be there than OW and I think that he really debated on bringing her. He has a bunch of nieces and nephews. What kind of man brings his mistress to a family function when he is still married to his wife and hasn't even filed for D?
I found out that he had discussions with his dad last week saying that he just didn't know what to do. My H and I had a discussion last Sunday and I told him it was over. Does he not listen to me, there is no decision left to make, he chose OW, and I am choosing to move on? His dad told him you need to get away from OW and sort this out. I am also mad at my fil. He had enough nerve to tell my mil that I was bitter. His son has enough nerve to be OW for 8 months while he is married to me and I don't have a right to be mad! He stands there and holds me when I am crying and says things are going to be ok and then acts like his hands are tied with his son. Give me a break. Don't act like you care about me if you don't. I can tolerate a lot of sh$t but don't pretend to stand behind me, and then turn your back on me because you aren't man enough to tell someone what you really think. I don't need you. I have gotten along fine this far and I will move on. In a situation like this, you really find out what people are made of. Some just don't want anyone to be mad at them, so they play both sides. Others just ignore me. I have been a part of this family for almost half of my life and they enough nerve to treat me like I don't even exist. It is bad enough that I have a lying, cheating H and now I have a bunch of ils without a backbone.
Sorry for all the venting. It has been a rough weekend.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
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