Don't come to conclusions yet. Take some time and let things settle, keep up with the DB'ing.
Isn't funny at these ages of our lives we are living financially like we were when we first move away from parents. I keep waiting to see if this is real or not, I have not eaten so much Top Ramen in my life, but I am learning how to spice it up.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
I'm not jumping to conclussions. The conversation was explicit enough.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Actually it was an instant msg conversation that wife left up on her computer...daughter went to use mommy's computer and wham.
W - My butt is sore OM - Don't worry I'll rub it better for you tomorrow. W - Ok my love, i'm off to watch tv and go to sleep.
There's the highlight.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
How would you play devil's advocate in this role? I'm too emotionally involved in the betrayal and my D's pain of finding it to even try and grasp how the glass would be 1/2 full here. Sorry.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
well you don't have proof that he did that for her. Yes, as of right now it could very well be a EA, but that doesn't mean it's a PA. What's your line? What're you willing to put up with or work through.
I'll tell you what I believe in my heart. If two people truly love each other, they can work through anything......to include an affair if one has occurred. However, they BOTH have to want to try, the cheater has to be repentant and the cheatee has to be willing to forget it and never remember it again - just like God forgives us our sins and they are forgotten.......
Otherwise you're just treading water....IMO.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
I've already forgiven for one affair that happened three years ago. I have forgiven, but not forgot. I'm not sure I can do it again...and she is definately not trying. It's all me right now.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
I want my partner and best friend back. I want my family back intact.
I didn't want a divorce. But right now I'm caught up in the emotion of it all and don't know what I want.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
