(The Pouf! reference is purely a magical thing - in no way means or implies that I effect the Pouf-ing. But thanks for the reminder.)
Yes, H applying my ideas to his R w/the kids is a pos. thing for the kids, and for his R w/them. He IS such a bettr father today than he was for the past 3, 4, 5? Does he see that he prolly wouldn't have thought of doing these things if left to his own devices? Prolly not. He (way pre-Bomb; as in the Original H) was always very caring & empathetic & thoughtful. The last few yrs his R w/the kids suffered as H got more & more concerned w/his OWN wants/happiness. Assuming he didn't continue on that way, he prolly would have come up w/something like these ideas on his own at some point.
Yeah, MAYBE he'll start applying Better-the-R things to me, too. Tho he DID (Feb/March) & I'm still confused about that. He was all about giving my LL (QT), talking w/me (not AT me), putting on movies that I would want, NOT being on his cell/laptop in the evenings, making "girl" drinks in the blender. . .Then he stopped. I WILL keep showing the way; I know he's still watching & learning from me (esp how to deal w/the kids/D/S thing now). It's just hard.
Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.
Me: 45 - WAH: 36 S8; D6 M: 11 yrs 07/06 Initial Bomb 10/06; D Bomb 11/06 - DBing begun 1/5/07 - H moved out 03/16/07 To date: No papers filed; H not seen a L; trying to convince me to MUTUALLY file for D
