This also leaves thing open better on the chance of reconciliation.
Not sure I understand your point of view on this, Jak. I was wondering if HE could find another place to live, not that we would share the house. I know he is interested in dating (which I believe he has already started) and I already told him I could not tolerate him bringing someone HERE with me here. I believe he would like me to take the house in the settlement so he can keep more of his retirement money. It's not a good time to try to sell the house so that is why he said he would live here.
The problem is what I can afford is farther away, and H barely sees D16 as it is. I am only staying here (in this state!) so they can see each other. The taxes here are outrageous. Me owning the house would be a stupid move on my part. Not sure he would agree to waiting for 2 years to settle on that.
Right now I am afraid to ask.
I had a bit of a melt down after a phone conversation with him this morning. He sounded so happy asking about my house hunting experience and I was so sad!!!! It made me mad when he told me to "keep my cup half full"! Why can I comfort him when he needs some TLC and he tells me basically to "get over it"? I sent him back a text message saying, "thanks for your support" and then didn't answer the phone when he called. He drove over then. I was outside mowing the lawn; he never came around to see me, but I saw his car in the driveway. When I finished I drove away instead of going inside the house. Couldn't go far because I didn't even have my purse. He asked (via tm) where I was and I told him I ran away until I could get a hold of my feelings; that I didn't want to cry in front of him again. He had left by the time I returned.
I just tried reaching him to tell him I was over my tantrum, but now he is not answering my calls. It all seems so silly now! Guess it's part of the emotional roller coaster that goes on and on and on......
