am catching up to your sitch so I am sorry if I'm off with my words, but from the little I've read so far, I am wondering if you have the DB books. In them, you'll see that constant questions and requests for reassurance (Do you love me?) almost never helps and almost always hurts the R. Makes them so uncomfortable and you don't want that.
Can you take a break with him and watch some comedies, or guy flicks that he likes so he can feel "safe" around you? Meaning that he can experience some conflict free time with you, some "no pressure" moments with you...then you can build on them. Sounds like you both need to be in touch with why you loved each other in the first place. Dancing, camping, fishing, hobbies or classes together, friends in common? Anything that helps remind you guys that you actually do have a life together, without hitting him over the head with it. Reminding him of how great you were/are as a couple is another form of pressure. Imho, you need to give him a lot more space. If you want him back, you gotta keep the road home paved and smooth, and guilt doesn't help. This is tough, b/c in our hearts and minds, they should feel guilty. Just saying, it does not help US. Make sense? j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
