I have been in a similar situation now for about 5 years. Fortunately, we are all now living together for the last 12 months. However, she has not changed one little bit that I can really tell. Civil, modestly friendly, almost no physical touch and never a kiss or ILY. I have basically come to the conclusion that she will never change and I have stopped trying to work on us. We have stopped counseling because she just didn't seem that interested. I have even asked our counselor to stop seeing her because there is no real progress. (he's very expensive)
I have decided that she probably will never change or be part of the relationship, so now it is up to me to decide what I want to do.
It is simply amazing what we will put up with in our lives. Yes, I could easily divorce...would affect age of retirement, being able to live the last 2 years with my youngest son before he finishes high school, and have to give up a lovely home. Is a relationship that works worth all the pain I would have to go through to get it?? Life is tolerable at this point in time, but I certainly don't have a lover, wife, partner to share it with.
I wonder how others have approached this kind of dilema? Thanks for reading.
