Some of them. I just made the conclussion over the weekend with my D. It's just starting to make some sense though. She's a little young for one, but hey...weirder things have happened.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Everything fits that she's smack dab in between the stages of Anger and Replay.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Well mine just turned 38...and like Sheila she is an abuse survior too. (sigh) I believe the phrase you coined was "strap myself in for the ride"
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Well it explains the darting back in forth between her wanting me to "rescue her" and doing whatever self destructive thing she wants the rest of the time.
I'm starting to think the distance is the only chance I have at getting over the co-dependency part sadly.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Jazz - Time and space good thing for him at least. 789 - Time and space were good at first, leading down better path now. You - So far so good. Me - Haven't done that and it's not working.
So survey says....*DING*
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Jazz - Time and space good thing for him at least. 789 - Time and space were good at first, leading down better path now. You - So far so good. Me - Haven't done that and it's not working.
So survey says....*DING*
Whoooaa cowboy, tell me where my path is leading better, I am still as lost and confused as before, just releasing my mind from her at the moment. Could change my mind in a few.
Sorry that's not right, mine might be, I just haven't figured it out yet.
Last edited by 789; 06/24/0711:38 PM.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Whoooaa cowboy, tell me where my path is leading better, I am still as lost and confused as before, just releasing my mind from her at the moment. Could change my mind in a few.
Sorry that's not right, mine might be, I just haven't figured it out yet.
You're communicating with each other seems to have improved. She took you with her on that trip, although not the best of trips..she still included you.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
