Thanks for the kind words, and the link. I'll see if our church offers that; it wouldn't hurt to get some perspective on what I MAY be facing. I am careful to keep reminding my wife that "Divorce is not what I want; I'm being forced to do these things because of your affair and your behavior."
My desire to go to church was genuine, and it will be a new part of me and the boys' routine. If my wife wants to join us, fine. If not, then that's her choice.
Now, I DID stop off at her parents' house on the way home, with the boys in tow, and I do have to admit that I knew it would make W look bad. But I was over there yesterday, alone, returning my FIL's pressure washer, and they were both SO disappointed that I didn't have the kids with me, and I knew my wife wouldn't be bringing them over there anytime soon.
I see nothing wrong with her wanting some independence. I've told her so -- repeatedly -- and also told her it was damned attractive. But she needs to be able to find a way to carve out that independence from WITHIN our marriage, instead of inappropriately OUTSIDE of it, thru an affair that is so incredibly destructive to her entire family.
