Oh and I guess I should add that I was probably a bit more HD than my XH overall but again it really didn't create that much angst for me. I didn't let a single rejection be any more than what it was; XH being tired from a long day, etc. And to be clear that was the case in the entire 15 year relationship so in no way did it contribute to the end of the marriage.
The funny thing is that initially I didn't even "recognize" the fact that my 2bx had a lower drive than me. I thought it was odd when we were dating that he would spend the night with me and not initiate sex but it was so outside the realm of my experience with other men that I simply chalked it up to "too much to drink" rather than LD. It wasn't until we reached the point a couple years into the marriage when more than 2 weeks would go by consistently without him initiating and then I would consistently get rejected when I did initiate that it became "the problem" in my mind. I'm almost certain that I would not have ended up on this BB if I had married a man who initiated approximately weekly on approximately a regular basis even though I really would prefer much more sex. I'm generally an easy-going and reasonable person.
Although, I should add that at this point in my life, I am definitely seeking a relationship in which sex is a high priority, 'cause "Why not?" - LOL
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