I need some understanding from the men out there.

[Crazy Eddie]

1. If a guy is living with his mother, ignoring her, snapping at her, and treating her like his servant, he isn't likely to get much pleasant attention, conversation, cheerful service, nurturing, or whatever else he's looking for from her either. Some mothers might give grumbling service with lots of resentment because they can't bring themselves to turn their overgrown spoiled brats loose, but this doesn't strike me as particularly healthy.

2. If each side is lacking something from the other, this is a good opportunity for either side to calmly suggest a quid pro quo. Sure, both sides should be providing to the other already just because they know it's the right thing to do, but they're not, and it's hard to tell just by reading one sides's story who dropped the ball first. Doesn't matter at this point anyway. And yeah, they'll have to repeatedly hold each other to it for a while, which is annoying, but not unbearable if they can both get over any conflict-avoidant tendencies and keep their cool.

3. Sex is a strenuous activity if you do it right. My W has been going to the gym religiously for almost a year, and still isn't up for more than twice a week. Believe me, I consider this a vast improvement and am quite happy with it. If I need more, there's always the Internet and lots of touching and snuggling which can be done every day without too much effort.

Personally, I'd consider a lack of touching and snuggling worse than a lack of sex. But maybe I'm just weird.