I agree with Sunny--no 'poofing' allowed! Although I admit to having the very same thoughts...they are not healthy thoughts, either from your own head or mind-read from those around you. My IC snapped me out of it--YOUR CHILDREN need you in their lives, even if things get complicated! But you know that.
btw, if H is taking those suggestions and applying them to the kids, see a positive that he HAS heard and processed you. How long did it take for him to start doing that since the sitch? Maybe he will need the same amount of time, from now, before he starts to manifest some of those in your R. He is learning HOW to have a R, and you showed him the way. He is trying it out, seeing the results. Hold on, J, he may just start applying it to you, too. But it has to seem like it was HIS idea (male ego). Stay positive, keep showing the way. He is watching. It is making a difference.
It really is a positive/positive. He is becoming a better father--great for your kids. Even if it stops there. But I bet it won't...
{{{{J}}}}
Hope Church was rejuvenating.
(I have a teeth-grinder, too--you can hear her across the house!)
